Notre-Dame: The World’s Cathedral by Lynn Curlee

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Notre-Dame: The World’s Cathedral
Author & Illustrator: Lynn Curlee
Published May 5th, 2026 by Atheneum Books for Young Readers

Summary: A fascinating visual history of Notre-Dame, “the World’s Cathedral,” that highlights the burning and reconstruction of the cherished building from award-winning author-illustrator Lynn Curlee.

On April 15, 2019, the Cathedral of Notre-Dame in Paris was almost destroyed by fire, an event that shocked and riveted the entire world as it played out in real time on TV and across the internet.

The story of the fire and its aftermath, along with the rebuilding of the historic cathedral, offers an exciting narrative around which Lynn Curlee builds an illustrated story for middle grade readers about this internationally cherished monument.

In the way that only he can, Lynn illuminates captivating information about cathedrals, gothic architecture, French history, restoration of old buildings, heroism under fire, and even Quasimodo, the famous Hunchback of Notre-Dame.

★ “This handsome offering goes far beyond covering the story of the devastating 2019 fire that
destroyed the Cathedral of Notre Dame in Paris, France. . . Currently the only book available on this subject
for middle-grade readers, this will be an attractive addition for all collections.” – Booklist, STARRED REVIEW

“Soaring tributes to both the building and the workers who preserved it.” – Kirkus Reviews

About the Creator: LYNN CURLEE was educated as an art historian and worked as a fine artist for many years before he began to make children’s books. Three of his books, Capital, Liberty, and Rushmore, were chosen by the Barbara Bush Literacy Campaign as their Book of the Year in three consecutive years. Mr. Curlee has won numerous awards for his work, including but not limited to a Robert F. Sibert Honor Book (Brooklyn Bridge), Orbis Pictus Award (Rushmore), ALA Notable Books for Children (Liberty), and Bank Street Best Children’s Book of the Year (Parthenon). His other books include Ballpark, Trains, Mythological Creatures, and Seven Wonders of the Ancient World. He lives in Norwich, Connecticut, with his partner and two Great Danes. Find out more on Instagram @LynnCurlee.

Review: This book is beautiful and fascinating! I learned so much about Notre-Dame and Parisian history. I also found the parts about the fire and restoration of the cathedral so interested!

I had not read any Lynn Curlee before this one, and I have now set a goal to read more because I loved the way that he brought his passion for the topic into both the text and the illustrations. Sadly, there is a not in the back from the editor that shares that in early 2025, Lynn Curlee fell “ill and is unable to continue working” and “this book is likely Lynn’s last book.” I am happy to say that this final book is definitely one to be proud of.

Educators’ Tools for Navigation: This book has so much for educators!

First, it could be used for a read aloud. It is pretty text heavy, so would probably be for older readers, but chunking this like a chapter book would be a fascinating read aloud.

Second, I loved the vocabulary and glossary in this book. It is a great way to discuss vocabulary in nonfiction text.

Third, this book could be used for a mentor text to create their own nonfiction text about something they are interested in.

Fourth, this book would be a great support for any class learning about gothic architecture–I learned so much!

Fifth, make a timeline!

Sixth, do a book club with his other titles in this set then let students share with the class what they learned about their topic.

I just would love to see this text in classrooms and libraries; I hope you grab it!

Discussion Questions: 

  • How did the Parisians change their view of the cathedral during the 900 years it has been around?
  • Why was the restoration project so successful versus others that took longer?
  • Why is Notre Dame’s architecture so special?
  • How did Victor Hugo’s book affect the treatment of the cathedral?
  • Why is the cathedral so important to modern Paris?
  • How is our modern technology and advancements negatively affecting Notre-Dame?
  • How do you think the author chose which parts of the cathedral to include as illustrations?
  • Why do you think the author chose to jump around time-wise in the book?

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How a Bear Became a Book: The Collaboration That Created Winnie-the-Pooh by Annette Bay Pimental, Illustrated by Faith Pray

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How a Bear Became a Book
Author: Annette Bay Pimental
Illustrator: Faith Pray
Published March 31st, 2026 by Henry, Holt, and Co.

Summary: Celebrate the 100th anniversary of Winnie-the-Pooh with this gorgeous picture book about the creation of the World’s Most Famous Bear!

In 1926, the very first Winnie-the-Pooh book was published. One hundred years later, generations of kids have grown up in the Hundred Acre Wood.

How a Bear Became a Book tells the story of how writer, illustrator, and editor came together to craft Pooh’s first adventure. But deeper than that, this book introduces our youngest listeners to how stories begin and where they can go. As Pooh’s voice enters the text, he slowly comes to life in the art.

Textually delightful and visually stunning, this is a picture book about the making of picture books, but it is also a masterful exploration of ideas, storytelling, collaboration, art, and most importantly, honey

“A thoughtful, beautifully crafted title that honors a literary classic on the eve of its centennial and introduces “The Best Bear in All the World” to a new generation.” —School Library Journal, Starred Review

“A stunning tribute to a classic that also offers insight into the bookmaking process.” —Kirkus, Starred Review

“Bay Pimentel and Pray highlight the importance of teamwork, pulling back the curtain on the creators who produced the Winnie-the-Pooh books.” —Publishers Weekly, Starred Review

“Marking one hundred years since the publication of A. A. Milne’s Winnie-the-Pooh (1926), this thoughtful, well-designed informational picture book pays tribute not only to that book’s creation but also to the process of book creation in general.” —Horn Book, Starred Review

“Appealing and thorough, a charming companion to the original Pooh stories and an enlightening introduction to how children’s books can evolve.” —Booklist

About the Creators: 

Annette Bay Pimentel is the author of several nonfiction picture books, including the Schneider Family Book Award honor book All the Way to the TopPura’s Cuentos, and Before Colors. She lives in Moscow, Idaho.

Faith Pray is the author-illustrator of The Day We Got LostPerfectly Imperfect Mira, and The Starkeeper, among others. She comes from a family of talented children’s book creators, but her extraordinary talents for capturing light and shadow and conveying emotion and story through line work are all her own. Faith lives with her husband and children plus two cats in the Pacific Northwest.

Review: The first thing that stuck out to me about this book was how clever it was. It is clever in the writing, including the structure, and in the illustrations. It took the idea of writing a nonfiction book about Winnie-the-Pooh and turned it on its head to make it unique because it focuses on the evolution from idea to book and how Winnie-the-Pooh, as the character we know, came to be.

The book is more than just a story about A.A. Milne’s Winnie-the-Pooh books though. It is a book about creating. It will help readers see how a book went from an idea to a product to something we treasure. It also looked at why the Milne books were special, especially when it came to illustration placement and how the illustrations and words played together. And I love that the editors had a place in the story; editors are often not talked about in picture books.

And lastly, the inclusion of Pooh himself in the narrating added humor and nastalgia.

I can definitely see why the book is getting so many starred reviews–it deserves all the praise! It’ll be a great addition to any classroom, library, or home, and I cannot wait to hear about educators using it along with aspects of Pooh’s stories.

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Q&A with Nadine Presley, Author of A Ramadan Night

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A Ramadan Night
Author: Nadine Presley
Illustrator: Asma Enayeh
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Summary: Celebrate the beginning of Ramadan with a young boy and his father in this nighttime sensory picture book that celebrates the wonder, excitement, and peace of the holiday!

The call for prayer hugs tight the sky of Damascus on the first night of Ramadan. As steps flutter to fill spaces in mosques, Sami sets out on a nighttime walk with Baba to answer his what does a Ramadan night feel like?

Through an evening full of sounds and sights and scents, Sami feels the celebration of community. He feels the connection and calm of prayer. He feels the delight of a late-night dessert. He feels the joy of generosity.

He feels…a Ramadan night.

I am so excited to share this Q&A with author Nadine Presley: 

  1. What inspired you to write A Ramadan Night, and what parts of Ramadan were most important for you to include?

I knew I wanted to write a Ramadan book, and I knew I wanted it to capture the wonder, excitement, spirituality, and anticipation that fill the month, especially through a child’s perspective. To begin, I asked children what their favorite part of Ramadan was. Many said the food, which is completely fair, but most of them said the nights. I immediately responded, “Me too.” That was the spark. That was where the story truly began.

I drew deeply from my own childhood memories of growing up in Damascus. I remember walking to the mosque each evening with my prayer rug in hand, noticing the families filling the streets, the way the moon seemed to follow us overhead, the echoes of salaam greeting us at the door. I remember the stillness of prayer, whispering du‘a in sujud, and the quiet sense of accomplishment afterward, especially knowing that something sweet was waiting at home. Those nights felt expansive and intimate all at once, and they have stayed with me.

It was important for me to show that while Ramadan is often understood simply as a month of fasting, it is truly layered and multidimensional. Fasting is central, of course, but Ramadan is also about community, connection, spirituality, prayer, generosity, shared meals, reading Qur’an, and the small childhood joys like staying up past your bedtime. It was important to me to portray Ramadan as an immersive experience, centre atmosphere and emotion rather than explanation, allowing readers not just to learn about Ramadan, but to feel it.

  1. What do you hope students take away from this story?

I hope students come away understanding that traditions, whether their own or someone else’s, are meaningful and worth celebrating.

For Muslim children, I hope the book feels like a warm reflection of their lived experiences. I hope they see their nights, their mosques, their Baba, their desserts, and their joy represented with care and authenticity.

For non-Muslim readers, I hope the story sparks curiosity and empathy. I hope it expands their understanding of Ramadan beyond fasting and invites them into its beauty through connection rather than explanation.

  1. What do you hope young readers feel when they finish the book?

I hope they feel wonder.

I hope they feel the quiet magic of nighttime, the comfort of walking beside someone you love, and the warmth of belonging to something bigger than yourself.

For some children, I hope the book feels familiar, like looking into a mirror. For others, I hope it feels like a window, opening into a new and beautiful experience.

Most of all, I hope they feel warmth.

  1. What was your collaboration process like with your illustrator?

Picture books are such intimate collaborations, and it was incredibly moving to watch the story come to life visually.

One of the most special aspects of this collaboration was something we didn’t even plan. The mosque I had in mind while writing was the Mosque of Badr in Damascus, one of my favorite mosques that I used to go to as a child. Without us ever discussing it, Asma chose to feature that same mosque in the book. When I saw the illustrations, it stopped me in my tracks. It felt like such a tender and beautiful coincidence, almost as if memory itself had guided us both to the same place.

I also love the care given to the details, the architectural elements, the mosaic dome, the warmth of the family’s expressions, the way Syria feels present in the atmosphere of the scenes. And Sami’s little slippers with socks, that detail makes me smile every time. The slippers are such a familiar Syrian masjid look, and it captures the specificity and charm of childhood so perfectly.

The illustrations didn’t simply accompany the text, they expanded it. They added texture, depth, and visual emotion in ways that made the story feel even more lived-in and real.

All in all, it was a truly wonderful experience working with Asma Enayeh, and I am so grateful that our editor, Celia Lee, created what felt like the perfect match.

  1. What does authentic representation mean to you in the context of this book?

Authentic representation, to me, begins with emotional truth and cultural specificity. It lives in the small details, the spirituality woven naturally into the night, the rhythm of footsteps on the way to prayer, the way families exchange salaam, the softness and stillness of sujud, the use of familiar and unapologetic terminology.

It was especially important to me to portray an Arab Muslim Baba in a way that feels warm, loving, and proud. Too often in literature, Arab fathers are reduced to stereotypes or positioned at a distance. I wanted this Baba to reflect the fathers I know, engaged, affectionate, spiritually grounded, playful, and fully present in their child’s world. A father who walks beside his child, guides him gently, and shares in the wonder of the night.

Authenticity also meant resisting the urge to over explain. I didn’t want the story to feel like a lesson about Ramadan. I wanted it to feel like Ramadan. By centring atmosphere, emotion, and lived experience, the book becomes immersive rather than instructional.

Muslim children deserve to see their lives reflected with dignity, beauty, and nuance. And non-Muslim readers deserve the opportunity to step into that world through story, through curiosity, connection, and shared humanity rather than simplification.

  1. If teachers or librarians wanted to use A Ramadan Night in their classrooms or libraries, what conversations or activities would pair well with it?

I would love for A Ramadan Night to be used as a doorway into conversation, creativity, and connection. Because the story is written as a sensory experience, one natural extension is inviting students to reflect on a special night in their own lives. Teachers might encourage them to write using the five senses. What did the air feel like? What sounds filled the space? What smells or tastes stand out in their memory? This helps children see how everyday moments can become meaningful stories.

The book can also open rich discussions about family traditions and community. Students can share celebrations or rituals that are important in their homes, whether religious or cultural, and notice the common threads that often run through them such as togetherness, gratitude, generosity, connection, and joy. These conversations help children see both the uniqueness and universality of traditions.

Because the story unfolds at night, educators might also explore how nighttime shapes mood in storytelling. What makes staying up late feel magical? How does darkness heighten our senses or make familiar places feel different? This can lead to thoughtful conversations about setting and atmosphere in literature.

Ramadan is also a month centred on generosity and care for others. Classrooms or libraries might extend the themes of the book into a small act of service, such as writing thank-you notes, organizing a donation drive, or brainstorming ways to practice kindness in everyday life. This helps students see that the values in the story are not abstract, but lived.

Finally, I hope the book creates space to talk about representation, why it matters to see yourself reflected in stories, and why it is equally important to read about experiences that may be different from your own. Those conversations build empathy, curiosity, and respect.

Ultimately, I hope A Ramadan Night creates room for wonder, connection, and meaningful dialogue in classrooms, libraries, and homes alike.

About the Author: Nadine Presley is a Syrian Canadian author who loves everything about Ramadan. Her earliest memories of Ramadan go back to her days in Damascus, where she joyfully awaited the month to begin. She now resides in Canada with her husband and three boys, working as a literacy educator. Passionate about anti-racism work and promoting pride in Arab Muslim heritage, she is also a speaker for children, youth, and adults. Her favorite things in the world are big hugs, kind words, and delicious Syrian food—especially during Ramadan.

Thank you to Nadine for this fantastic Q&A and to Simon & Schuster for settig it up!

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Kellee’s 2025 Reading Recap & Stats

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And just for fun: here is Trent’s 2024 Year in Books!


Here are my five star reads from 2025:

Middle Grade

Alone by Megan E. Freeman
Giant Rays of Hope by Patricia Newman
The Liars Society: A Secret Escape by Alyson Gerber
Not Nothing by Gayle Forman
The Deadly Fates: A Conjourer Novel (Marvellers #3) by Dhonielle Clayton
Trials of Apollo #1: The Hidden Oracle and #5: The Tower of Nero by Rick Riordan
The Wild Robot Escapes and The Wild Robot Protects by Peter Brown
(I also reread The Giver, Gathering Blue, The Messenger, & Son by Lois Lowry and The Wild Robot by Peter Brown, all which are 5 star reads)

Young Adult

The Davenports by Krystal Marquis
Everything is Tuberculosis by John Green
The Fountains of Silence by Ruta Sepetys
The Great Misfortune of Stella Sedgwick by S. Isabelle
I Don’t Wish You Well by Jumata Emill
Red as Royal Blood by Elizabeth Hart
Sisters in the Wind by Angeline Boulley
Sunrise on the Reaping by Susanne Collins
Winterkeep by Kristine Cashore
(I also reread The Anthropocene Reviewed by John Green; Graceling Fire by Kristen Cashore; and The Hunger Games, Catching Fire, & Mockingjay by Suzanne Collins, all which are 5 star reads.)


Happy reading in 2026, friends!!!
To see all the books I’m reading, visit my READ Goodreads shelf and feel free to follow 📖💙

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Jeffrey Ebbeler’s I Like to Read Comics: Wait a Minotaur, I’m Ogre It, Kraken Me Up, & A Giant Mess

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Wait a Minotaur
Published December 17th, 2024 by Holiday House

I’m Ogre It
Published October 11th, 2022 by Holiday House

Kraken Me Up
Published September 7th, 2021 by Holiday House

A Giant Mess
Published April 6th, 2021 by Holiday House

Author & Illustrator: Jeffrey Ebbeler

Summary: Comics-lovers can now share the fun with their kids, students, siblings, and younger friends who are learning to read!

I Like to Read® Comics are perfect for kids who are challenged by or unengaged in reading, kids who love art, and the growing number of young comics fans. Filled with eye-catching art, humor, and terrific stories, these comics provide unique reading experiences for growing minds.

Like their award-winning I Like to Read® counterpart, I Like to Read® Comics are created by celebrated artists and support reading comprehension to transform children into lifelong readers.

Wait a Minotaur: When his new school hallways start to feel like a labyrinth, how will Gus the minotaur and his human pal Nick stay calm and find their way to the correct classroom? Find out in this action-packed early reader from comics artist Jeffrey Ebbeler.

It’s Nick’s first day at a new school! As he walks in, he meets an easily excitable and impatient minotaur named Gus. It’s Gus’ first day, too—so he grabs Nick’s hand and charges straight into the building. There’s so much to see and do! They dance along with band practice, bounce around the school gym, end up in the boiler room, and. . . okay. They’re lost.

They may not know where to go, but they know what to wait a minute, calm down, and retrace their steps so they can find their classroom. Young comics readers are sure to resonate with comics illustrator Jeffrey Ebbeler’s hilarious, slapstick take on a common coming-of-age experience—and parents will love the subtle lessons of patience and critical thinking.

I’m Ogre It: An ogre turns out to be the best neighbor ever in this punny easy reader comic.

A family gets a surprise when a fun-loving ogre moves in next door and helps a sister bond with her screen-obsessed brother.

Ollie is so absorbed in the video game Smash Tower that he doesn’t notice that his sister and an ogre named Tim have emptied his room and constructed an obstacle course that mirrors the levels of the game in the yard. But a tell-tale red string leads him to the challenges. This comic is perfect for reintroducing kids to the fun of in-person play.

Kraken Me Up: Izzie and her unusual pet make a big splash at the county fair in this punny easy reader comic from a beloved children’s book illustrator and comics artist.

Izzie can’t wait to debut her pet at the county fair. While the other children have brought pigs or chickens, Izzie brought a…Kraken!

Even though everyone thinks Kraken is big and frightening, he is not. He’s like Izzie, sweet and shy. Kraken and Izzie use creativity and humor to win over the crowd in this hilariously adorable comic. The variety of panel styles, speech bubbles, and fonts are all perfect for engaging developing readers.

A Giant Mess: A gigantic tyrannical toddler is out to play . . . with the whole town! A hilarious early reader from comics artist Jeffrey Ebbeler.

Molly doesn’t want to clean her room; she wants to play. Before Molly can argue with her mom, they hear BOOM! BOOM! A giant toddler is on the loose!

Molly watches dumbfounded as Jack picks up cows and plucks airplanes out of the sky all for fun. He even picks up Molly and pretends to fly her around. Vroooom! When his giantess mother calls him home, he gleefully dumps everything and turns to leave. Now it’s Molly’s turn to “Stop! This is a giant mess!”

About the Author: JEFFREY EBBELER is a New York Times best selling illustrator. He has illustrated and occasionally written over 60 books for young readers. His published work includes picture books, middle grade and chapter books, and graphic novels.

Review: These I Like to Read® Comics are must gets for so many reasons!

First, they are such a great introduction to mythological and fairy tale creatures. Although most of the stories don’t go into the backstory of them, there are definitely allusions to their origins, such as ogres living in caves, the minotaur understanding directions, etc.

Second, they are wonderful first comics! I love that this series, and especially these books, make graphic novels and comics so accessible!

Third, the titles are so punny! They just make me so happy!

Fourth, each of these stories are so unique and fun. Although they can be utilized as a set, they all definitely stand alone also.

Last, I am a huge fan of Ebbeler’s artwork. It is colorful, eye-catching, expressive, and just perfect for these books.

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Author Guest Post: “Back Matter Can Be the Beginning” by Charlotte Gunnufson, Author of Dream Submarine

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“Back Matter Can Be the Beginning”

Back matter is found at the end of a book, but it can be the beginning of a new interest, an invitation to explore and learn more. For young readers, back matter can be the jumping off point for a dive deep into a fascinating topic.

For teachers, back matter can be a terrific resource. Educators can use the bonus material at the back of a book to:

  • Engage students in a new topic. The story pulls them in; the back matter piques their interest.
  • Enrich students’ understanding and appreciation by extending their knowledge and revealing the depth and breadth of a subject.
  • Encourage curiosity, exploration and independent learning—hallmarks of an effective education!
  • Enjoy! Lots of kids (and adults) love facts and enjoy fortifying their brain with interesting information.

There’s a boom in back matter, and children’s picture books are a big part of this exciting phenomenon. Picture book back matter is visual, accessible and even entertaining. Here are some of the ways it’s presented:

  • Fun facts: additional information that educates, entertains and encourages curiosity
  • Activities and experiments: hands-on fun to further understanding
  • Key concepts: tricky ideas are distilled to reinforce learning
  • Glossary: valuable vocabulary
  • Maps: a little geography lesson that shows location or the scope of a journey
  • Timeline: often illustrated to enhance comprehension and retention
  • Primary sources: photographs, letters, newspaper clippings and more
  • Diagrams: pictures are worth a thousand words!
  • Charts and graphs: visual representations to deepen understanding
  • Author’s note: delves into the author’s research journey and writing process
  • Illustrator’s note: explains the artist’s research and how the art was created
  • Bibliography: shows that a book has been properly researched
  • Further reading: future reading!

Activity: Dive Deep into Back Matter

  1. Ask students what they know about back matter.
  2. Share a picture book that offers a bit of back matter.
  3. Prepare students for a visit to the library: they’re on a mission to find more back matter!
  4. Collaborate with the school librarian, and visit the library with students perusing the picture book section, both fiction and nonfiction.
  5. Invite students to share their discoveries.
  6. Make a list of the different types of back matter.
  7. Dig in! What do different types of back matter show? What types of back matter work best for given books? And what exactly is a bibliography?

Option: Older students can graduate to longer books.

Extension: The next time students embark on a writing assignment, ask them to include one or more types of back matter that are well suited to their topic. Invite them to share their work.

Importantly, students can use these investigative skills now, next year, in high school, college, the workplace and—bonus!—their lives.

But wait, there’s more! After diving into a picture book’s back matter, check out the author’s website. Authors are often immersed in research, and like teachers, they’re eager to share what they’ve learned.

Dream Submarine
Author: Charlotte Gunnufson
Illustrator: Cleonique Hilsaca
Published June 11, 2024 by Candlewick Press

About the Book: Climb aboard the cozy Dream Submarine for a nighttime journey through the world’s oceans! Encounter disappearing fish and dozing whales. Watch large fish get their fins and faces cleaned by tiny wrasse. See red moki settling in caves and parrotfish snoozing in slime sleeping bags. Dive deep and discover bioluminescent creatures lighting up like fireflies. Rise to the surface relaxed and ready to learn more! This beautifully illustrated book includes seven pages of back matter: a map of the world showing the Dream Submarine’s voyage, fascinating facts about each animal, and a diagram of the ocean zones.

“An exploration of the oceans yields stunning discoveries…A delightful voyage well worth taking.” Kirkus Reviews

About the Author: Charlotte Gunnufson is a former teacher who loves connecting with kids at schools and libraries. She knows teaching is a tough job! Educators will find beneficial back matter in her books and teacher resources along with free, fun stuff for students on her website, booksbycharlotte.com. Two STEM books from Disney Planet Possible, Hard Hat Hank (2025) and Eight, Nine, Tengineers (2026), feature pages of kid-friendly facts and hands-on activities. Charlotte is also the author of School Spirits (Atheneum, 2026), Halloween Hustle, Prince and Pirate and a soon-to-be-announced STEM story.

Thank you, Charlotte, for pointing out the importance of back matter–it is always such an asset!

Author Guest Post: “Friendship in Schools” by Arleen McCarthy, Author of My Friend John

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“Friendship in Schools”

When we think of the word “friend,” we think of so many different people. We think of friends we grew up with, friends we went to college with, friends we know through our children, and friends we work with. But are they all really “friends?”

When I was younger, I would use this word a lot, but the older I get, the more selective I am with it. I think life teaches you that. 

But what if we learned what a friend is early on? What if we learned this valuable definition in elementary school? Would we be different as adults? Would our world be better?

I believe the answer is yes. We may not have a lot of friends, but I bet we would have good ones.

In my book, MY FRIEND JOHN, I wanted to easily convey to young readers that friends make you feel good. Friends make you feel safe. There are no judgments with friends, no whispers of envy, no passive aggressive comments–just advice, listening, acceptance, laughter, warm hugs, and a lot of love. This is what I know for sure, and this is so valuable to know as a child.

But how often have children and adults been hurt by their friends? If we, as humans “felt” our way through friendships, our friend list might decrease but the value of it would increase and we’d be much happier in the long-run.

In MY FRIEND JOHN, a young boy named John, who has Tourette Syndrome, starts at a new school. As he faces bullying, his new friend, Bella, stands up for him and educates herself and others on neurodiversity. 

When I think of Bella, I think about the kind of person she is: She did not judge her new classmate. Instead, she embraced a new student because she was kind, and even though he appeared very different from her, she wanted to be his friend. 

This was exactly what John needed. This is what we all need in life, especially children and especially children with disabilities. If more children were like Bella, our world would be a better place. John’s experience at his new school would not have been as pleasant if Bella had not taken the time to stand up for him. But the transformative power of human connection causes us to feel empowered and resilient.

How many times as an adult have you heard someone make fun of someone else? How many times have you seen people leave mean comments on social media posts? How many times have you heard gossiping? Why is this acceptable behavior? Where did we learn this from?

Life can be so hard at times, and we all need genuine friends to get us through it. I believe if children realize the true meaning of friendship and its connection to kindness, they would be able to make better choices.

When I think of my own experiences as a child and the moments I felt left out, it felt awful. I remember one time while I was in high school, I was walking home from the bus stop with a friend. I asked her if she wanted to do something that night as it was a Friday. She said she had already made plans with another friend, and they were going to a party. Why didn’t she just invite me? I never understood it. I remember feeling so sad. It felt terrible not to be included. 

And yet, Monday morning, I continued to be her friend.

Why do children and adults accept this behavior from their “friends?”

We all need human connection. We all need love. And we need to have this message conveyed to children, so they have the knowledge and understanding to make better choices when it comes to choosing friends. 

I feel this is especially important for our children with disabilities. We need more people to see past a disability. We need more people embracing diversity. We need more people like Bella.

Life is hard even without a disability…imagine living with one…imagine being a child living with one. 

But now just imagine being at a party where there were people with and without disabilities. Everyone is laughing and everyone is having fun. Everyone feels safe and everyone feels happy. Everyone is included.

I want to be at that kind of party.

What is a friend? A friend is someone who makes you feel good. A friend is someone who makes you feel safe.

Published November 8th, 2024 by Austin Macauley Publishers

About the Book: Meet John, a remarkable new student at The Huckleberry School. John’s life takes a heartwarming turn when he befriends a sweet little girl named Bella. Everything seems to be going smoothly for him, until a challenging situation resurfaces, shaking the foundations of his world. 

In My Friend John, we are invited to witness a touching journey which explores not only the essence of friendship but also the profound qualities of kindness and leadership. This poignant tale serves as a powerful reminder of the resilience within us all and the transformative power of genuine connection.

About the Author: Arleen McCarthy teaches at a public school in New York City and has always been passionate about making the world a better place. She grew up with two brothers with special needs and saw first-hand the struggles they endured while they were in school. Arleen, her husband, and their dog live in New York and divide their time between Manhattan and Westchester.

Thank you, Arleen, for this look and lesson about friendships in schools!